The Perfect Funeral Reading

Whether you envision a vibrant celebration of life or a more subdued farewell, you will want the ceremony to meticulously encapsulate the spirit of your loved one.

Sharing readings within the service allows us to share the character of your loved one, our feelings of love and loss, as well as involving others to participate every step of the way.

Who will read?

There are a few things to bear in the mind when considering who to ask to read.  There is a balance to be struck between someone who was close to the person, and someone who will not find their emotions overwhelming on the day.  No one is expecting a perfect or professional performance, and a little emotion will be treated with compassion and understanding by those present.  The person needs to be comfortable speaking in public and not likely to be so overcome that they can’t speak at all.  Often a family friend is a good choice, and also gives them an important role even though they are not immediate family.

How long does it need to be?

Short and concise is best.  The longer the reading the more chance of emotions getting the better of the readers. Two or three verses of a poem is more than enough, or a couple of paragraphs of a story.

You don’t have to follow the crowd and you could try something different.  Have a look at our tips to get you started.

1. Make it personal

Use an extract from a letter, email or poem that they wrote, how about their favourite recipe? If writing wasn’t their thing, how about a few lines from their favourite story or a quote from their favourite film - share their passions.

2. From the heart

Sometimes the best words are the ones you create yourself. You might like to consider writing something original or asking another family member or friend to do so.

3. A special place

Was there a cherished beach, a beloved holiday destination or a home town they revisited? Bringing in elements that reflect these special places can create some fond memories and bring the attendees together.

4. Laughter and smiles

If your loved one was known for their sense of humour, then there is nothing wrong with carrying that through into their funeral service. Retelling a funny story, poem or song can soften the atmosphere and create a bittersweet mood.

5. Keep it short

Funerals are emotional. Keeping your reading short and sweet will hold the attention of the audience and make it easier for you to get through.

People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. – Maya Angelou